Question by Reality Maker: Is there a way to stop blunt headaches when thinking bad thoughts?
I have a overactive conscious. When I propose something for myself, I associate selfish thoughts with bad thoughts. I have the right to be happy, but I have the mind of a child. So, I feel guilty for things that aren’t bad at all. The headaches are small, blunt, short-lived and remote to different parts of my head. Please, help!
Best answer:
Answer by Carm3lo. Me Myself And I
You have grow up in some sort. Practice doing something because its right for you and not feel guilty. When you do have that gut wrenching feeling just tell yourself to brush it off and look at the positive results that you got for doing it.
What do you think? Answer below!
#1 by Jerry on February 12, 2012 - 9:46 am
“There is no witness so dreadful, no accuser so terrible as the conscience that dwells in the heart of every man.” – Polybius.
Realise, and accept that you, just like the rest of us, are only human, and therefore, fallible. We all make mistakes; do, or omit to do certain things, but the idea is to learn from them, and resolve not to make the same one again. Once having done this, it can be helpful to repeat an affirmation to yourself along the following lines, at least 3 times: “I may have made a mistake in … … and there are some things which can’t be undone, no matter how much I regret it, so I firmly resolve to learn from this, and choose to forgive myself now, and move on”. Negative thoughts often precede negative emotions. Accordingly, it’s important to regularly monitor, and deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, images, impulses, or emotions, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately. Technique For Re-Programming Negative Thoughts: When you notice something negative, such as: “I can’t do this/ am never going to get over this!” or: “Why am I always so useless/such a loser?” or even an image, emotion, or a memory; recognise that it is being generated from the negative part of your mind.
After identifying and labelling it, visualise a large, red, flashing, “STOP!” sign, and/or possibly a stern faced person wagging an index finger at you in a negative manner, then say to yourself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: “I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!” You may want to use either: “ruse”, “ploy”, “game”, or “trick”. In the case of an image, visualise a large “STOP” sign, or your preferred version. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don’t regard it as being strictly necessary. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method.
Read: Escaping Toxic Guilt: Five Proven Steps to Free Yourself from Guilt for Good! by Susan Carrell, & Good-Bye to Guilt: Releasing Fear Through Forgiveness by Gerald G. Jampolsky, & Stop Running Away: Confront the Guilt, Regret and Remorse That Haunt You by Timothy M. Wise, from your bookstore or enter “guilt” in the searchbar at Amazon.com for more media. Hypnosis is merely a heightened state of suggestibility, in which you are better able to communicate with your subconscious mind. 85% of people are suggestible, to some degree, so you could either preferably seek professional hypnotherapy. If unavailable, hypnosisdownloads.com has one about overcoming guilt.
“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing”.
- John Powell.