Question by sophia_of_light: How to get rid of bothersome thoughts? Do you have some like these? If so what do you do to stop them?
Often I think of things my mother and my sister have said to me when I were younger, growing up that really brings me down! I try to stop the thoughts and memories but they continue and it sometimes leads to deep depression. Sometimes these thoughts happen as soon as I wake up and/or through out the day. Please be serious and no rude or bogas replies. These things that have been said by them they haven’t even followed &/or these things said haven’t applied to them but were ment to apply to me. How do you deal, cope or manage with this, some of these things were very crule and have hurt my whole being. I feel as though I am haunted by these things that were said so many years ago almost daily. I know they were said in the past but my pain is like it were yesterday, I know I should not hold a grudge but can’t let go of memories or hurt feeling to get past it. I am not even sure that I hold a grudge but I do know it messes with my mind, emotions and seriously brings me down!
I feel like confronting them both like this is my only hope to heal but this would only start a family fight and I will loss!
Answer by the_only_solorose
you don’t have to carry all that painful hurtful baggage with you. You are the only one that can control what you do or don’t think, but it does take a commitment to practise control. Suggest you would do well to see a therapist, they can sometimes help you to develop coping skills and help you devise a plan for unloading all that old baggage.
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